Why do people become snobs

I was at the mall the other day on my first Christmas shopping excursion of the season when I overheard two women talking about a friend they left back at the Kate Spade store. I would never spend that kind of money on a purse. I would never spend that kind of money on anything! We think of snobs as people who think they are better than others because of their brand names, bank account or social status. You are. It all comes from the same ugly place.

No, this does not work. If I slap your face, then you will say that is not allowed. Because it hurts, obviously. Next, you have to choose. You can either slap me back or say it is not allowed, you can't have both.

We are all equal; if it's not allowed for me to slap you, then it's not allowed for me to slap anyone, for anyone to slap anyone, for you to slap anyone, and for you to slap me. If you feel being snobby is wrong, then you can't be snobby either.

Or you can be snobby, but then you can't hold his being snobby against him. Not Helpful 2 Helpful 1. Not Helpful 10 Helpful 4. There is this guy who's always staring and never utters a word. Whenever I catch him, he acts like I don't exist at all. What's going on? He likely wants to have love in his life, but doesn't know yet with whom, and you've caught his eye.

Or he's interested in you, but is shy. Both are legitimate feelings. If he wants love, he's going to have to talk to someone at some point, which is something he may not have learned yet.

You don't have to suffer this, though. You're well within your right to call him out for staring. Try to be calm and polite, but certainly be firm. He'll have to learn that it's probably already too late to have any chance with you, and he should have said something as soon as he felt something.

Not Helpful 3 Helpful 2. I always see her and my mom is friends with her mom. The girl is just a bit stuck up, but she's never been mean to me and I want to be her friend. What should I do? Try to do some of the things she does. Try to talk to some of the people she is good friends with and let her see. Act popular too. Not Helpful 8 Helpful 1.

Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Some people may seem snobby; in reality, they might just be shy, or distracted. Pay attention to what mood the other person is in.

Helpful 1 Not Helpful 0. Snobbish behaviour is not always linked to money or prestige. Also a really good guitar player can be snobbish. Remember that the high self-esteem of those people, even if it's based on something money, job, skill is build up by themselves to compensate something else. Consider that they play a role with their behaviour because they feel they need to impress others, for example you.

Even hardcore-snobs are human beings just like you, which may fear to lose their face in public if they change their behaviour. If you want them to change, get them to understand that they don't need to be this way to be liked or accepted by others. Submit a Tip All tip submissions are carefully reviewed before being published. People are not always aware of their behaviors, such as being snobby.

They sometimes act out when they're jealous or are missing on something in their life. Helpful 35 Not Helpful 8. Related wikiHows How to.

How to. Co-authors: Updated: October 8, Categories: Featured Articles Social Nuisances. Article Summary X To deal with a snobby person, try to avoid competing with them over something like the price of your handbag. Italiano: Comportarti con le Persone Snob. Bahasa Indonesia: Menghadapi Orang Sombong. Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read , times. This person does not think I am worth acknowledging because I do not sing or play an instrument.

I wanted to confront him about his attitude to me, but I decided that I was no good at confrontation, so I just spoke to him in a normal way. Rated this article:. More reader stories Hide reader stories. Did this article help you? Cookies make wikiHow better. By continuing to use our site, you agree to our cookie policy. About This Article. Sylvia Ann Jenkins Apr 20, Jane Lomas Aug 13, This article was thorough, but straight and to the point.

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Tips and Warnings. Related Articles. Article Summary. Part 1. When someone is a snob, they work hard to make the people around them feel inferior, or less than them. Avoid overreacting. Rather than going with the instinct to be rude back to this person, or to get irritated around them, go out of your way to be polite to them instead.

This will at least make time with them easier to handle. Someone might feel less inclined to be snobbish to you if all you are giving them is kindness and politeness.

Prove them wrong. Sometimes, someone might act like a snob towards you because they believe stereotypes about you, regarding anything from your level of education to the neighborhood you live in. Of course, stereotypes are often untrue, so rather than getting mad, just prove the person wrong. Show them you are not what they believe you to be. If you challenge the view someone has on you, they will be forced to reevaluate the ideas they have about you, and the stereotypes they have already formed about you.

Change your own behavior. If this is a co-worker, for example, then just moderate your behavior while you are interacting with them at work. Avoid topics of conversation that usually lead to them bragging or talking themselves up. Take a break. If you have to be around this person on a daily basis, take breaks when you need them. Excuse yourself politely and take a few moments for yourself. You can say you need to make a phone call, use the restroom, or to step out for a moment.

Sometimes the only way to deal with a snob is to distance yourself from them. If you avoid extra, unnecessary contact with this person, it might help make your interactions with them otherwise seem less overwhelming. Recognize that you are unique. The things this snob might look down on you for are things that make you special and unique. If a snob is making you feel inferior, remember that whatever it is that they are turning their nose up at is something that makes you interesting and different.

Whatever the snobbish person is putting down about you, find the good in it. If they are bragging about their fancy material belongings, be grateful for the things you have, regardless of their social status.

Have sympathy for this person. A snob is only using this behavior to protect him or herself from the insecurities within themselves. They are putting others down because they are having troubles of their own. Rather than getting irritated, just be kind and feel sorry for this person.

Simply offering a kind smile and a nod when they start to speak to you in a snobbish way might turn them off to talking to you that way. Part 2. Realize that this person likely feels insecure. If a person feels insecure about his or herself, they might try to use snobbery to keep others at a distance and protect themselves and what is likely a fragile ego from being harmed.

Recognize that some people were raised to behave in a snobby way.